It's been six weeks since you've had your baby and it's time for a visit to your care provider. If you are a mother, you know where I'm going with this. The visit went well and after cooing at your baby, your provider tells you: "you may now resume sexual activity with your partner" or some variation of that. The vast majority of mothers are not as pleased to hear this news as their partners are. Some dads may even have a special night planned, complete with lingerie!
For many mothers, sex is not an option at this point. Stitches may still be healing, breasts may still be sore and sleep deprivation is at an all time high. For them, sleep trumps sex. Still, there is pressure put on new mothers to bounce back to being their old selves way too soon. Most partners aren't aware of what a new mother needs after giving birth to their baby.
One of the mothers from my new mom's support group shared this article with me. She said that after reading it, her husband was able to better understand how she was feeling and what she needed from him during this transition. Please share your thoughts!