When women are pregnant and getting ready for baby they are often not aware that their marriage will change. They aren't told that they will be resentful and will long for their free time again. Pregnant women are warned about lack of sleep and breastfeeding problems but not about how becoming a mommy will change their relationship with their husbands.
It's not 1950 anymore and yet many new mothers still hear things like, "your husband can babysit." Marriages change after a newborn enters the picture. Even the most solid of partnerships can be thrown into unfamiliar territory and lose strength. The good news is, this is mostly temporary and couples find a new groove, redefining themselves as parents.
Couples who are in equal partnerships may find themselves in very different roles than they are accustomed to. They may even be surprised and concerned about how their partner is behaving!
This article provides a good framework for parents to work with. Moms and dads should know that they are not alone in this transition from couple to parents!